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okelayIf you tell someone you love them, you don't just walk away.
Especially if it's a kid. You can't act as a parent to a kid and then dissappear.
Cam in 'Bones' raised a girl for two years. the girl's mum had died at childbirth. she was for all intents and purposes her mum. then she broke up with the girl's father and promptly dissappeared from the girl's life.
she says it was cause the father was cheating on he, but that she thought of her and her father practically everyday.
later she says she looked at a memento an could feel the girl missing her.
So I don't understand why she left. I mean, she broke off the romantic relationship but she didn't severe the emotional connection with the child.
So why not stay? the child didn't have a mother and she needed one.
It seems completely wrong to leave
she says even later that she felt she had no part in her life anymore. which seems silly. she did have a part. she could've talked to the girl's father.
For that matter the father should've talked more of the girl's well-being and less of who to fuck next.letting the one woman who'd acted as a mother to his child walk away? not a good idea.
I know she wasn't her biological mother but I've always thought parents are the ones that raise a child not the ones who contribute the genes.
like in 'About a boy'.
That's why I understand why many parents are reluctant to introduce their partners to the children in order to avoid this situation.
I think that you make a commitment to that child once you've met and formed a connection.
That's why you should be careful about what you do.
I think this applies to everyone not just kids, but kids are usually the most fragile and the ones that need to be more carefully handled.
I'm sure there are many points of view I'm ignoring and circumstances and all that but I also think some things are black and white. some things are good and some are bad. sometimes there are extenuating cirscumstances which make the action less bad but still don't make it good. like killing someone to defend someone else.
and I think abandoning a loved one, particularly a kid is about one of the worst things you can possibly do.
at least in the show things turn out ok, with Cam realising her mistake and offering the now-orphan girl a home.
Especially if it's a kid. You can't act as a parent to a kid and then dissappear.
Cam in 'Bones' raised a girl for two years. the girl's mum had died at childbirth. she was for all intents and purposes her mum. then she broke up with the girl's father and promptly dissappeared from the girl's life.
she says it was cause the father was cheating on he, but that she thought of her and her father practically everyday.
later she says she looked at a memento an could feel the girl missing her.
So I don't understand why she left. I mean, she broke off the romantic relationship but she didn't severe the emotional connection with the child.
So why not stay? the child didn't have a mother and she needed one.
It seems completely wrong to leave
she says even later that she felt she had no part in her life anymore. which seems silly. she did have a part. she could've talked to the girl's father.
For that matter the father should've talked more of the girl's well-being and less of who to fuck next.letting the one woman who'd acted as a mother to his child walk away? not a good idea.
I know she wasn't her biological mother but I've always thought parents are the ones that raise a child not the ones who contribute the genes.
like in 'About a boy'.
That's why I understand why many parents are reluctant to introduce their partners to the children in order to avoid this situation.
I think that you make a commitment to that child once you've met and formed a connection.
That's why you should be careful about what you do.
I think this applies to everyone not just kids, but kids are usually the most fragile and the ones that need to be more carefully handled.
I'm sure there are many points of view I'm ignoring and circumstances and all that but I also think some things are black and white. some things are good and some are bad. sometimes there are extenuating cirscumstances which make the action less bad but still don't make it good. like killing someone to defend someone else.
and I think abandoning a loved one, particularly a kid is about one of the worst things you can possibly do.
at least in the show things turn out ok, with Cam realising her mistake and offering the now-orphan girl a home.
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Date: 2009-04-03 04:01 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-04-03 09:37 pm (UTC)And I agree she was wrong 'bout leaving Michelle because some other woman might come and replace her.
I guess we all deserve second chances... now it's Cam's.